I have known my now x boyfriend for 15+ years, we started out just casual a couple years ago while I was getting a divorce. We became a couple in September of 2013. I found out I had cancer in December of 2013. Then through tests found out I had a second cancer in February 2014. In march I lost my rental unit since I couldn’t work or pay the rent but I had nowhere to live so my second husband offered me a room to stay in so I wouldn’t be homeless. I offered him an out when I found out because cancer is a lot for a new relationship. Things were great till I started the treatment for the pelvic cancer, the radiation burnt me so bad I couldn’t even sit, I developed incontinence and had severe diarrhea which gave me a prolapse uterus. My doctor told me that if I were to have sex it could rupture the uterus and I could bleed to death since I have to take Coumadin as well.
We had separate houses and I stayed at my house due to all that was going on medically, he would come stay with me usually only on Thursday. Well I tried to make time for us to spend time together but he was working (so he claims) I trusted him completely…
then day before Easter I told him I was coming over to see him and the kids, since I could finally get in my car without crying from the pain from the burns on my bottom. While I was there he showed me his new phone, while holding it a text came in, I just him the back button then it hit me. What did I just see? I hit the message button, and the list came up, there was the text from “baby girl” and then my list below it. I read the message that said “ I miss you too baby” I was crushed, so I told him I would not be played a fool and I left and had a meltdown down the road. I went home and signed into his Facebook, since we had the same password, because I had a suspicion at that point. And sure enough, it was who I thought. I printed the messages, and posted as him that he got caught cheating while his girlfriend of 2 years was fighting for her life in cancer treatments. I tagged this home wrecker in the message because she was living with someone else at that point, and damn it lets put the cards on the table. Then a picture of his penis pops up in my newsfeed, I quickly clicked that I didn’t want to see it since I have minors on my friends list. I tried to take it down after an hour or so, but could not sign in to his Facebook. I figured he had changed the password. His sister and his mother called threatening me, I had not posted this on his Facebook. After a short time his who Facebook was gone. Yes I know I should not have exposed them on Facebook, but I was hurt and all I did was tell the truth.
I stayed away because I was devastated that I let him in to my heart and he destroyed it when I was so sick. And the best part is I have known her for years we went to school together. She knew we were together and what was going on with my cancer. A month later I get a text message from him, excited at first, only to be cussed at for getting him locked up for 10 weekends in jail. I did not do this, but I got blamed for that too. I recently found out she went to school with the head of probation. The first week end comes and I start getting anonymous text messages from someone rubbing it in my face that she had him and I didn’t. At first I thought I was a wrong number. Then it got too personal and I knew who ever it was knew the situation. This went on for the next 4 Saturdays, and each week getting more and more arrogant and insulting. I was called names, told to go die somewhere, etc. Well this last set, she got cocky and admitted exactly what she did to set me up. but gave herself away, when I called her out and told her she was busted, her reaction was to tell me to go to hell, I couldn’t prove anything. So I have turned all the messages over to the police. And sent a copy of all the messages to him, his sister, and his mother.
I have since found out that she has history of cheating with married/committed men, breaking up their relationships, and hooking up with them. She has even married a couple of them. This girl who would do this to someone she knows, would do just about anything to get what she wants. She not only took my relationship with him, she took his kids from me, and his family that I love like my own. I pray no one else ever has to go through the hell she is putting me through. She drives a black kia soul, so if you see near your men chase her off quickly!